Man Slammed for Telling Parents He Should Have Had Fancy Vacation as a Kid

A man is being bashed when a joke he made was taken seriously, when he said the fancy vacation he just came back from was what he “should’ve” had as a child.

The original poster (OP), u/Icy-Cellist449, shared his story to the popular Reddit forum r/AmITheA**hole, earning 3,800 upvotes and nearly 1,000 comments for his post, “[Am I the A**hole] for being honest with my parents about my childhood?”

He says that his family was poor growing up, and he was able to attend college only via scholarships and what he calls “s**tty part time jobs.” Although he says it was difficult, he doesn’t harbor any resentment towards his parents.

However, his fortunes changed when he met his partner. While u/Icy-Cellist449’s family had trouble making ends meet, his husband’s family is wealthy. He works for his father and has a cushy job.

This summer, OP and his partner went on vacation with his partner’s parents, which was full of “sight seeing and bouncing around to their different vacation homes.”

On the way home, u/Icy-Cellist449 and his partner visited OP’s parents. The vacation came up in conversation and OP said that the summer felt like “what all the summer breaks of my childhood should have been.”

His mother was offended by this comment and told him they’d done the best they could. He said he didn’t think differently, but it led to an argument—and the visit was cut short due to the tension.

In a followup comment, the OP clarifies that he meant it as a joke, and thought it would be taken how he intended—like “this is the summer vacation children dream about,” he said. But he realizes that his tone was lost and that he hurt his parents’ feelings, and will be apologizing.

A man is being criticized for a joke he made to his parents about how the extravagant vacation he just came back on was what he “should’ve” had as a child.
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Money—whether there’s too little of it or too much—can be a cause of strain in a relationship. Sometimes if one partner has much more money than the other, it can be seen as a symbol of power, according to Insider, regardless of whether it is actually used as such.

“Traditionally speaking, money equals power,” relationship expert Susan Winter told the outlet. “And the one with the power is the one who controls the relationship.”

But Winter argues that if the difference in money is leading to insecurity, it’s worth it for the couple to sit down and have a “who does what” discussion, so the less-wealthy partner can still feel like they’re contributing. Winter also points out that being the “kept” partner in a “sugar daddy”-style relationship can be difficult as well.

“What may seem like a lot of fun at first is actually disempowering. Being the recipient of gifts and a convenient lifestyle often backfires,” Winter said. “What looks like a good deal at the beginning actually trains the recipient to become weak.”

And sometimes the issue comes from outside, like one story where a woman accused of being a “gold digger” revealed that she was actually a millionaire to begin with. But, while generally it’s accepted that people should marry for love, sometimes people will still marry for money—but often face criticism for doing so. And worse, some people take Winter’s warning that “money is power” to heart, by using an extravagant gift as a cudgel to get their way.

Reddit slammed u/Icy-Cellist449 for their comment.

“[You’re the A**hole]. You can be honest about your childhood by saying you were poor. Saying ‘my childhood should’ve been like this,’ when your parents didn’t choose to be poor is a huge [a**hole] move,” u/ElevatorOk8601 wrote in the top-rated comment with 13,900 upvotes. “‘It was so easy to adjust.’ Someone please take the silver spoon out of OP’s mouth.”

“[You’re the A**hole],” u/AstriumViator wrote. “It’s gonna suck for OP if this relationship doesn’t last, he’ll be chasing that middle-class/rich high for the rest of his life lol.”

“Don’t you know that every child should be taken around to various vacation homes all summer long? It’s in a contract with the almighty. Dang, if only op hadn’t lost that invisible contract,” Easy-Concentrate2636 wrote. “Immature [You’re the A**hole] for op.”

Newsweek reached out to u/Icy-Cellist449 for comment.

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